I often fall into the trap of comparison. It’s easy to scroll through social media snippets of someone’s life that look so exciting, stress-free, leading us to assume the parts we can’t see are downright magical too (because how could they not be, right?). It drains my joy when I let my mind spiral in this delusion. It always looks greener when you see the cropped, brightened, filtered & publicized square portion. The saturation of the scene is literally raised.
I love the creative art of capturing moments and editing photos, but you see the issue I’m getting at here; we discourage ourselves with comparison.
We get disappointed when we don’t fit into molds we weren’t designed to. Comparison writes lies in our minds that should have no place filtering how we view ourselves. I’ve lost count of the lies my mind has written from comparison. Every one of them has hurt my ability to be me and do anything I am actually good at because I cowered in disappointment and fear. I believed them.
‘I’m a terrible wife, not a good cook, not talented enough, not stylish or artistic enough, not smart enough, don’t make enough money, too weak, too tall, too stubborn, too quiet.’
Filtering myself through other people has only hurt me and even distanced my friendships with them because I let myself become intimidated by expectations that weren’t even there. Comparison stopped me from trying. Comparison killed my joy.
God has been reassuring me that He designed each of our lives specifically for us and we should be endlessly grateful that the one who knows us most intimately surrounded us with people, circumstances, and even challenges tailored to make us who He wants us to be. Staring at your neighbor’s grass in envy won’t bring you joy. The grass is not greener on the other side, it’s greener where you water it.
Take action in your own life. Start watering your own grass. Build a community of real-life friends, find a new place to explore for the weekend, re-organize your closet, spend more time in the Word, go to the craft store and get started on the hobby you’ve been dreaming of, practice the heck out of your photography skills or that latte art; whatever it is that God has put into your life for you to water, grow at, enjoy, and maybe even snap a picture of, work at it and find joy in it.
The lush green grass of the life you’ve grown will still have weeds. It takes constant effort to keep your grass healthy and to appreciate it even when it’s not. Don’t waste what God has blessed you with.
Adjusting my mind set this way has made all the difference in my life lately, and it’s a choice I have to make consciously every day, but it’s been so worth it. It’s made me appreciate my feed, my life, my experiences, and my joy so much more.
Do not neglect to do good and to share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God.Hebrews 13:16 ESV